This is a question we get a lot. Many instructors have guns they recommend for women, I still say try them out, try a bunch, and practice often. Handle a hundred guns at gun stores and shows. Pick 5-10 that feel great in your hand, and then go to a range or a friend and shoot the hell out of them. Don't spend $300-$1500 on a handgun and then regret it.
You have your gun, now how do you conceal it.
This post would be too long and boring if I talked about every concealment technique so we will cover one or two at a time.
The Flash Bang
The Flash Bang is a great design for women who want more option to carry. 1) Don't let your wardrobe prevent you from carrying. 2) Don't let carrying prevent you from dressing how you like. My wife loves the Flash Bang. There are many videos of this holster being demonstrated on YouTube.
My daughter does not love it quite as much. The only downside I see to the Flash Bang is that you pretty much have eto have more than an "A" cup to conceal effectively.
If you watch the demos, and practice, you do not really need to worry about exposing yourself with this holster. And, if you have to use your gun you probably would not care anyway.
If the Flash Bang is not right for you, there are many other options.
The Dyna™ is a soft-style bag with plenty of interior space and multiple exterior pockets. The zippered main storage compartment accommodates your personal items. Another zippered pocket in front, along with pockets on each end, securely holds cell phones, sunglasses and other often-needed items. Piped seams and nickel-plated solid brass hardware contribute to the purse’s good looks and durability. The Dyna’s self-contained side-entry holster compartment accommodates most small and large-frame defensive handguns, and like all Galco handbags features a locking zipper for added security.